Christian Divorce. What to Do When It Happens To You.

Just in case you were thinking I can't relate to what you are going through there was
a two and a half year period in my life where I went through a Christian divorce. During that time I lost 85% of everything I owned , was denied access to my kids,
cried for at least an hour everyday, was kicked aside by my church, was falsely accused, lost my job, was dragged through the courts, paid out unjust amounts of money, almost went bankrupt, and seriously pondered suicide daily with detailed plans of how I was going to do it.

That was many years ago and I wouldn't want to come across like I am still bitter or
looking for some sort of revenge. God has restored me marvelously and I hope to encourage those of you out there who may be in the middle of this dark emotional
hellish roller coaster at the moment. There is definitely hope for you. Jesus for sure is right in the middle of all this with you. He hasn't left you or condemned you like the church probably has painting you with the divorce brush. So I will attempt to share some of the life lessons and things I discovered about Jesus through it all in the hope that you will find sound counsel and comfort.

#1) Jesus is not asking you to now be single for the rest of your life because of your divorce. Jesus knew exactly how long your marriage would last and what you would
do when you were in it and what your spouse would do...etc. It is baffling how confused some believers are on this issue. When God created Adam he said" it is not
good for man to be alone". He has provided abundant life for you and given you all
things you will need to be Godly. This includes a good mate in life. The only people
who are called to be single are quite comfortable with the idea. If you are not
comfortable with the thought of being single then you are not called to be single so
don't start entertaining that thought and tormenting yourself with it.

#2) You are not required to hold out forever and pray that your spouse one day snaps
out of it. What you will come to find out is God gives us all a free will in all matters (especially marriage) and watch out for well meaning Christians who counsel you to keep praying and believing when God is asking you to move on with your life. Having said that there will be some of you who are apart from your spouse for reasons other than adultery and there is a reasonable chance of reconciling. Perhaps neither of you have done things too damaging to your relationship. To you I say stay in prayer and hold out for a season. How long a season is up to you and God but you are under no condemnation if you move on. Forgiving your spouse is one thing and ever being intimate again with that person is another. There are certain boundaries a spouse can cross and only you can decide if reconciling is reasonable or possible. A relationship is a two way thing (not just one) and both parties have to want to change. If your spouse is demanding change in you and is blind to his or her own arrogance and faults there is no foundation for a healthy reconciliation.

3) Get yourself into some sort of Christian divorce support group outside of your
church. Once you find one you will discover that many people's stories are way uglier
than yours and you are not the only one going through this. Whatever you do get out
of your house where you are trapped in your own self pity. Brooding by yourself is fruitless. There are natural phases we all experience in divorce and separation it will bring healing to you to understand where you are on the scale by talking to others. Purpose in your heart not to do any Christian dating at this time. Why you ask? Because who you are and why you split with your spouse are all tied into the spirits you have been listening to up to this point in your life and most of them are not good. You may have many patterns of behavior that God wants to change before you are ready again. This is a time for deep introspection on what you may have done wrong and how you can change. I have seen it over and over again where people jump out of their marriage right into the same kind of crap they just got out of. You need time to let the holy spirit change you from within. This doesn't necessarily mean you were to blame or anything like that it just means God is transforming areas in your life that will take time to emerge in you. How long? I don't know but it will take care of itself.

Begin to thank God out loud and in your heart for your new spouse and the changes
he is making in you.So once again grab hold of hope in your heart. Be on the look out
for a good friend of the opposite sex. Why? Because the little fox I am now married
to was my best friend during that awful time. The Lord had her right there in front
of me but I had to do some changing before I was ready. The key to success is to
realize God is for you in this time of hardship and he has a great plan B seeing how
plan A didn't pan out.

Online Affiliate Program.How to Pick the Right One.

So you are on a quest to find an internet affiliate program.You like the fact that they handle all the orders,take care of the shipping, and collect payment from the customer.All you do is market your affiliate website and get a cheque from them every month.Nice and simple.The trouble is there is just so many to choose from and they all are boasting loudly.For the most part you have to get past all the advertising which borders on lying and get to the truth behind the company.The following is a list of things to check for so you can make a wise choice.

#1 How many years has the company been in business.I wouldn't go near any company that hasn't been around for at least 10 years.Why?Because you may be signing up with a company deep in the red and about to go under.I am ashamed to say it but it has happened to me.All because I didn't check them out thoroughly.I don't understand all this hype about "pre-launch" and "get in now before we launch".To me that just means they are unproven and unstable.

#2Personally if you can't pick up the phone and talk directly to Julie or Sally who works in the front office I would run for the hills.Flashing scam bells and whistles should go off in your head if you get an answering machine all the time.Sadly this is all too true on the internet.There should also be a physical address where the main office is that you could drive to one Sunday if you felt like it.

#3Just how popular are their products that they market.Stay away from some new thing that the world just can't do without.Chances are the world will do without it and you will left holding the bag of purple widgets you thought everyone would buy.The more products they have the better.They should be selling things that sell well in the real world and are already well established out there.

#4 Is the company a member of the Better Business Bureau.The better the reputation they have the better you should feel. I actually know of a program out there right now(which I won't say which one it is to protect the people involved) that people haven't checked out to well because one of the co-founders of the company actually has 42 Better Business Bureau complaints against him resulting from previous scams he had run.This should kill your enthusiasm and you should not be saying things like"maybe he has turned over a new leaf"or "I'll just pretend I didn't know that and carry on in this anyway".It amazes me how people can be duped like this when they ought to just cut their losses and start over.

#5How extensive is the back office training.Do you have a mentor who is willing to help you and is his success tied to yours.Fire off a few emails to your future mentor and see if he gives a rip or if he is just trying to sell you something and say goodbye. Personally I like this type of affiliate program because it makes everyone accountable.

#6Watch out for affiliate companies that only take one kind of payment.The more kinds of payment they accept the better.Why?Because if that payment processor should decide they don't like XYZ affiliate company (for whatever reason they may have invented) that whole affiliate company will go down with your investment.Personally I don't like companies that won't pay you by a cheque in the mail just because I have seen this very thing happen a few times.

#7Your future affiliate program should be a free affiliate program to join but if you do pay something you should also be able to get out after a reasonable amount of time with your money back.Another good thing to look for is a discussion forum where you can login and learn about questions or problems other affiliates are having with the program.This can be very intuitive and give you an inside view before you get too involved.

So there you have a few ways to look for an internet affiliate program.
As the beatles would say"speaking words of wisdom... let it be".

Answered Prayer

There is a problem I would like to address that seems to be common in most Christian circles today.Very few believers know how to speak the word to their problems and I believe it is the key to answered prayer. Instead we are negatively talking about our problems resulting in long silly counseling sessions that go nowhere and resolve nothing.Proverbs 18:21 says"Death and life are in the power of the tongue,and those who love it will eat it's fruit."

I believe the most important weapon a believer has in his armor is his tongue.It is the #1 weapon against the devil.It's like a machine gun.It is always loaded and always produces results.Your tongue is either working for or against you.What you say will have an effect on you and the people you talk about.All we have to do is look at the latest feud between Donald Trump and Rosie for evidence of this.

For sure I have come to understand that we will never rise above our confession.In James 1:26 we read "if any man among you seem to be religious,and bridleth not his tongue,but deceiveth his own heart,this man's religion is vain.The word vain is translated "profitless"in the Greek.If we don't learn to say what God says about us and our situation we are in a sense handcuffing God to move on our behalf.God has always worked with words and always will.One of the names of Jesus is "The Word Of God".

So often after church we stand around chatting and our conversations sound something like this.." Well Bob, you know they are laying off at the plant again...yep..looks like I'll be the next to go..or...that Flu thing sure is going around hey?Did you get it yet.Everybody is getting it at work.I'll be getting it next I just know it."This kind of talk has no revelation of what Jesus has provided for us nor does it take into account the instruction on how to believe and receive according to your confession.It basically slaps God in the face and says he has made no provision for us and we are fending for ourselves.It is the kind of faith that really isn't faith at all although these believers would loudly proclaim they believe God's promises.

Consider what Jesus said in Mark 11:22-26" Have faith in God.For assuredly I say to you whoever says to this mountain,Be thou removed and be cast into the sea, and does not doubt in his heart but believes that those things he SAYS will be done,he will have whatever he SAYS.Therefore I say to you whatever things you ask when you pray believe that you receive them and you will have them.And when you stand praying if you have anything against anyone,forgive him,that your father in heaven may also forgive you your trespasses.But if you do not forgive neither will your father in heaven forgive your trespasses."Along with proper confession we need to be walking in love that our prayers aren't hindered.Answered prayer begins with changes in us.

I am writing this article not to condemn but to encourage.The only victories I have experienced in my life came from speaking God's word on a regular basis and hanging in there until it came to pass.We inherit the promises of God by faith and patience.God really has given us all things pertaining to life and godliness.So whatever you are believing God for start calling those things that are not as though they are.Thank him daily for your new job,husband,wife,healing..or whatever you are praying about.Make sure you are asking according to his will and then persevere and be positive and don't let others rain on your parade.